dude...

Posted by goDWin at 01:10 PM on April 5, 2008.

i miss the guys.

for the past two years, but more significantly over the past year, the majority of my friends have been female.  this has been for a number of reasons: all of the guys i hung out with were my age or older, almost every one of them either went to grad school elsewhere or worked elsewhere upon graduation, i didn't really connect with any of the guys in my med school class last year, my roommate is a girl so there are simply more girls around...so now i find myself in the current situation where the only guy friends i have don't live in the same city, much less the same state as me.  it's all chicks, all the time.

don't get me wrong.  i didn't have a problem with this at first.  friends are friends, and i was just happy to make new ones and become better acquainted with my existing ones, even if for the most part they happened to only be girls.  in reality i didn't even notice it while the transition first started happening.  it was only after a little while that i realized i didn't really have a group of guys to hang with, not like in the past.  sure, i'd gather with some guys every once in awhile, for a poker game, or if a good buddy came into town for the weekend, but it was never a thing where i could just call a guy friend and say hey let's go grab a beer or something.  it's different hanging out with girls.  and at the time, that's all it was, just different, not any worse or better.  so while i missed guy friends, i was still ok with all the girl friends that i had made.

but now...it's different.  they're cool people, and i'm not hating on girls...but i'm getting tired of it.  i'm tired of having to watch what i say, and when i say something wrong (which happens more and more now as i don't feel like holding my tongue) i'm tired of apologizing.  i'm tired of the veiled insults weaved into observations or comments that girls like to throw out.  i'm tired of the endless mind-numbing gossip.  i'm tired of the zero-to-skank phenomenon that happens every time they drink.  i'm tired of the drama.  i feel like someone tossed me into a sex and the city episode.  it's horrible.  and you know what?  it's my fault for being comfortable with it at first and not taking initiative to force myself to make friends with some of my med school classmates, for not being more ardent in staying in touch with the good guy friends that were still somewhat in the area like in raleigh or cary, for choosing a girl to be my roommate for this year, and probably for next year as well since i'm not moving and she wants to stay too.  i have no one to blame but myself.

next year, with a new med school class, is my last chance for awhile, i think.  oh please please please please let me meet some cool guys...i don't know how much more i can take without turning into a complete hermit.

but on a more positive note...GO TARHEELS!

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